At most ceremonies the bride and groom will make vows in front of their guests, they can be based on the standard structure or can be personalised.
Standard structured vows usually follow a set guide line similar to: I ___, take you, ___, to be my lawfully wedded (husband/wife), to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, until death do us part.
Personalised vows are written by the bride or the groom, they’re are very meaningful and creative, and usually come in two different forms: funny or tear jerking.
Funny vows have a sentimental value, but at the same time they add character and humor to the wedding. The bride and groom generally base their comedy on everyday life and couple drama, it brings out their personal characters and shows the happiness between them. Creating a memorable and cheerful moment between the couple and guests.
For example, Gemma Berryman, a friend of mine’s vows were:
these vows are my promises to you
so I wanted them to be ones I could keep.
So I won’t promise that I’ll always be tidy,
or I’ll always say I’m sorry when I’m wrong.
But I can promise you that from this day forward
you will never be alone
and that all of the tomorrows will be ours to share.
And I can promise you this
– I will love you forever.
The more emotional tear jerking vows are written based on the feelings and emotions that the bride and groom feel for one another and how they promise to make one another happy for the rest of their lives. They can also be quite intimate, poet and sweet. At weddings, the couple and guests are already in an emotional frame of mind, so if your vows are written in an emotional way, it is very likely your guests and yourselves will shed tears.
That is exactly what happened when Mark Berryman read his vows:
words cannot describe how I feel about you
or the way you make me feel.
You’re the only one person that I could love
with all my heart forever.
You make me laugh, you make me happy, you make me
smile, but most importantly you make me, me.
I will always try to make you happy, to make you smile
to make you feel how you make me feel
and to keep you safe.
But mainly, I will love you always and forever,
until the day I die.
The two vows written above are both emotional and one a little comical, every word captured the guests, the other half, and their hearts, as you can see below in the picture.
But remember, if you decide to create emotional vows and have an emotional ceremony, don’t forget to leave out some tissues for your guests…..